It is no secret that there are doulas who do not stay in their lane (yes, even in our area). They perform medical tasks such as cervical exams, blood pressure readings, and even checking
How do you know if your provider is doula friendly?
Simple. You ask them.
Asking them is the second step in taking ownership of your birth and postpartum experience and finding your voice. (PS: the first step is choosing your birth team and
Questions to ask
Maybe gathering up the courage to ask your provider how they feel about doulas is difficult for you. That’s ok. We’re here to help! Think about what may happen if you don’t ask… there may be negative energy in your birth space. How could that affect you? Here are some ways to begin the discussion:
“I’ve hired a doula, have you worked with doulas in our area before or recently?”
“What are your thoughts on doulas?”
“I’m thinking about adding a doula to my birth team. Do you have any recommendations?”
The answers you receive may surprise you, or it may be exactly as you expected. Don’t be afraid of digging a little deeper. You can ask how the nurses at the hospital feel about doulas, or how other providers in the practice feel.
What if I don’t like their answer?
If you don’t like their answer then there’s room for education and discussion or change. If you’ve hired a doula already, don’t be afraid to tell your provider and share your positive experiences with them, or explain how you feel your doula will be beneficial to you. You can remind them that professional doulas who provide continuous labor support are evidence-based. And if you haven’t hired a doula yet, give us a call! We want to make sure you’re supported.
Alternatively, if having a doula is important to you and you’re receiving negative (or even neutral) vibes from your provider, you are allowed to find a new provider. Keep in mind, however; that depending on how far along you are in your pregnancy, finding a new provider may be difficult as some do not accept new patients after 30+ weeks. It never hurts to call and ask!
We have cultivated relationships with providers in the area and we’re always happy to discuss options. We can help you find a provider who is supportive of your choices, including who you’ve hand-picked to be part of your birth. The Fayetteville Doulas know our supportive roles are just as beneficial and important as medical roles. We are by your side to steady you should you waiver or wobble, always nearby, ready at a moment’s notice to reaffirm your strength, but never in the spotlight. Your birth should always be about you.